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The Path - My Way Forward From Bondage to Freedom





               It’s not a very original term. All the great religious and spiritual traditions have their path in one form or another. The means by which they ascend the hierarchies of belief to reach oneness with their God. If fact the Chinese philosophical of Taoism, translates to the way or the path.

I have been in recovery for close to three decades. At times I have struggled simply living life. I have battled varying degrees of depression and anxiety at times so crippling I could not get out of bed. Through my struggles I found a way forward though darkness and into the light of being. I call this The Path

I came from a place pure blackness. I could see no light. I felt only fear and self-loathing. I lived this way for years, somehow managing not only to stay alive, but to have a career and a family. Make no mistake, both my job and my kids suffered. Pride and fear prevented me from seeking help. My ego’s inability to admit as a man, that I had no control of my life which spun around me.

The most baffling aspects of my depression where that I had the basic tools to improve the quality of my life. I had the 12 Step Program that I knew was effective. I was very good at staying away from drinking, but not so good at living life. Pride stood against me. My inability to be honest with another human being for fear for what they thought of me, stood in my way. The older I got, the harder it became for me. In my mid-40s I said enough was enough. I had to get better.

What happened? I would love to say that it was an act of Divine Inspiration. That God or angels descended to lift me into the light, but none of that happened. It was not my family or my kids that kept going during that time. It was not the sliver of hope that I felt that someday my life could better either. It was a personal belief in reincarnation. This philosophy is what carried me through. The Universe was teaching me a lesson. I couldn’t bear the thought of having to come back and live these lessons all over again.

When I finally let go of previous beliefs and began to form my own ideas of who or what God is that I began to find my way. Like the path, my concept of God evolves and matures. I have no personal cosmology. God is the underlying intelligence that permeates throughout all creation .

At first The Path was not a path, but a self-improvement model. A little exercise, a healthier diet and greater involvement in 12 step meetings. There were many false starts. At times I felt unmotivated and I was unwilling to extend the ranges of my comfort zones. Still, I edged forward. I began by shifting my perspective from external results to internal growth. Therein I began to craft the mental framework for what would become The Path. The Path for me, is a model of mind, body, spirit; complete holistic health.

I am far from my best, I am overweight, and mentally I am prone fears and anxieties, while spiritually I can be flighty. Each day I set the intention to be the best I can be; to be present for my life and live as fully as I can. I have learned that physical activity is as important for my mind as it is for my body.

Physically I like to practice yoga, workout with the kettlebell, and cycle. I enjoy hiking, being outside, connecting with nature. I am Eating healthier and trying to incorporate more organic and whole foods into my diet. I can feel the difference when I eat real food. These activities heighten my mood and raises my emotional energy.

Mentally, it means getting out of my head. Spending more time reading booking or learning new things. As a notorious introvert it means reaching out more and being around other people. It’s exploring my interests, embracing my creativity and to have the courage to be myself.

Spiritually, it’s connecting with my higher power. Keeping a meditation practice. Establishing prayer (Which are my way of communing with God). and keeping a daily journal. Journaling enables me to process and explore what the Universe is trying to teach me. It’s also studying. Never allowing my beliefs to become rigid and dogmatic. It's expanding my consciousness and allowing the Universe to direct my ways.

Creating my own path, I have forged a means to free myself from bondage of self. It is the way by which I overcome my defects of character and take part in my life. Evolving to be the best version of myself. The further I walk along the path, the more it changes. It is never static, rather it’s a living, breathing, evolving metaphor of my journey in recovery. My actions and my aspirations are a direct response to the divine spark which lives within me

             Each morning I set my intention to live by the holistic principles I have set for myself. That I may continue to grow and evolve to live a fuller more authentic life. I am progressing forward one day at a time


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